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Once Upon a Cycle

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Once upon a time, there was a beautiful princess walking down the street . . . or sitting in a coffee shop . . . or maybe she was in class? Anyway, a prince from another kingdom noticed this intriguing lady and wished with all his heart that he might talk to her. However, the young man was cursed. The…

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cyber-respect

Cyber Respect

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WARNING: this article may be triggering for some, so please read with caution. The subject is cyber rape. It may have happened to you: someone sends you a dirty message or photo which leaves you feeling violated. Cyber rape, cyber stalking, cyber bullying – the Internet has given humanity a global forum to be inhumane in anonymity. I used to…

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HEFORSHE

HeForShe or the Case for Androgyny?

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Recently, actress Emma Watson gave a speech at the U.N. about the HeForShe campaign to end gender inequality. Its purpose is to “galvanize as many men and boys” for change, “change” meaning equal rights for women. Her speech starts out addressing the elephant in the room, that the fight for women’s rights has become synonymous with man-hating (no apology offered),…

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T A K E  T H E  Q U I Z (3)

The Princess & the Tomboy

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Many of us grew up a tomboy. Dresses? No way. Tough and adventurous? Oh yeah. ‘Cause face it: if you’re not pretty, feel rejected, or find your worth in being useful or skilled versus being appreciated by males for being a female, being a princess is probably not going to be your first choice as a defense mechanism. Because yes,…

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The Lady is Lost

Lady Lost

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Can you think of a female character in recent television and film who is simply a lady? Not a “strong female lead” who can kick butt; not a street-savvy detective; not someone who is appreciated for her brains or skills; but a modest, feminine, ladylike woman who’s strong in her femininity. There are very few out there (most are in…

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CASTRATE (2)

Who Needs a Hero Anymore?

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feminism 1:  the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes 2:  organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests feminine (adjective) 1:  female 2:  characteristic of or appropriate or unique to women 4c:  having the final chord occurring on a weak beat  feminine (noun) 2:  the embodiment or conception of a timeless or idealized feminine nature…

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live significantly

Change your Clothes, Change the World

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Don’t you hate it when people lie about you? Don’t you hate it when people believe a lie about you or judge you without knowing you? It makes you feel powerless. You want to prove them wrong, set the record straight, but for whatever reason, you’re not able to or the person responsible refuses to own up to it. The…

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STOP (7)

Rescue me!

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“I’m doing it again!” one of my mates shrieked over the phone. “Doing what?” I asked. “I’m trying to rescue a guy!” “What are you talking about?” She explained her lifelong habit of coming to the rescue of men, i.e. through practical help or advice. She does it to be “useful” to them because she thinks she’s not pretty enough…

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shedding your armor

Shedding Your Armor

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I had a dinner with a couple friends the other night and the conversation centered on accepting themselves. Both had recent “A-ha!” moments about things they’ve been doing for years in order to be accepted by others. These behaviors and self-defense mechanisms started so early in their lives that they became unconscious behaviors—well, almost unconscious. There was always a niggle…

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Your Mission

YOUR PURPOSE: That Which the World Needs

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In this last blog on your purpose, we’re going to look at where it all comes together. Your Story, Vocation, Profession, and Passion make up who you are. Combined, they become your Mission, or that which the world needs. In my first blog on purpose, I quoted Frederick Buechner, who said, “The place God calls you is the place where…

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That Which You Love

YOUR PURPOSE: That Which You Love

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Purpose sounds like a deep issue. It’s something which gives meaning to your existence; therefore, it’s not to be taken lightly. Purpose, at least to our 21st century sensibilities, has a ring of self-sacrifice to it. Which is why some may be surprised to learn that your purpose is connected to that which you love. Your purpose is also your…

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your profession

YOUR PROFESSION: That Which You Got Good At

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In this series on Your Purpose, we’ve looked at Your Story (experiences) and Your Vocation (paid services). Now let’s look at Your Profession, or that which you got good at. Vocation and Profession can be used interchangeably and may overlap, but for our infographic, profession means a calling requiring specialized knowledge and often long and intensive academic preparation. Whether or…

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serve others

YOUR PURPOSE: That Which You Have Experienced

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Earlier I blogged about your purpose in life. Now I’m going to explore in more detail the 5 areas that make up your purpose. The first area we’ll look at is that which you have experienced. This covers things such as: childhood traumatic events jobs wins & losses relationships illness milestones economic status positive experiences Everything we go through affects…

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self-discovery

Discovering ‘You’ and Finding Your Voice

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I know you’ve heard it a hundred times before when you asked other writers for advice on how to “make it” in the business of writing. “Find your own, distinct voice,” they would say. But what is this voice they’re talking about? Your voice is who you are. If you’re wondering why some artists and entrepreneurs do so well in…

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be kind

Whatever Happened to Gentillesse?

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Have you noticed a greater portion of the news isn’t news at all? It’s documentation of people getting annoyed. Adding insult to injury are reader comments posted at the end of online news articles. Everyone’s got an opinion, a bone to pick, a grievance to air. With the Internet providing a global audience, we take pictures or video of people…

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fatherhood

WANTED: A Few Good Fathers

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The title says it all. The world needs a few good fathers. Well, more than a few, but a few is a good place to start. Fathers are important for a plethora of emotional, psychological, and lots of other –ological reasons you can and can’t think of. They help form our identity, provide stability, love us, protect us, and encourage…

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Love yourself to be happy

Happy Now

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I hope you read my post on finding your purpose in life. Purpose gives our lives meaning and contributes to our happiness. But even if you’re not at a place where you’re actively pursuing your goals and dreams, you can choose to be happy. Because happiness is a choice which is not dependent on possessions, social status, the absence of…

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Where is God calling you

Blog Your Purpose

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Ever wondered what your purpose is? It’s a question we ask ourselves at various stages in life. When we’re young, the question is usually framed as, “What do I want to be when I grow up?” The question seems settled once we hit college, but then we graduate and start a career (many times one which has nothing to do…

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toxic relationships

Relationship Detox

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The other day, a friend’s ex-spouse said he was planning to move to another state. My friend felt this incredible lightening of her spirit at the thought that this abusive, conniving man would finally be removed from her sphere (they share custody of their kids, so she’s had to have some contact with him). It then hit her how for…

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reality fiction

The Problem With Fiction Writers Is…

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The problem with fiction writers is they avoid adding snippets of their lives to their story like the plague. Some believe that weaving the writer’s experiences and feelings into a fictional novel only makes a thinly veiled memoir that is written with much laziness and self-absorption. I don’t agree. If you ask me who Bella White is, I’d say Bella…

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Do not change who you are to be accepted

The Incredible Changing Woman

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Had an interesting hour and a half-long conversation today with a friend about relationships. Not just romantic relationships, but good old-fashion friendships and why they’re so hard to come by. Our overwhelming conclusion was that when people won’t be themselves, the quality of their relationships suffers. And that’s a big problem, especially for us women. We change who we are…

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IT TAKES ONLY ONE LIFE TO HELP ANOTHER

Living Significantly Through Time Alone

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A friend texted me not long ago that her boyfriend broke up with her. I have lost count of how many boyfriends she’s had over the past 20+ years. There’s been two fiancés as well. Mr. Most Recent was not yet divorced from his wife. Neither was the last guy.

Rather than jump right into a new relationship, maybe it’s time for her (and him) to be alone for a while. Being alone is a scary thing for some people. I mean, who wants to be alone? You want to know someone cares about you, is there for you. Even if you’re super busy with work or other activities, it’s nice to know there’s someone, somewhere, waiting for you.

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feeling alone

Alone

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There’s almost nothing worse than being unattached while around two people who have recently started dating. I’m talking the type who are waaaay into each other to the point that they’re hardly aware of the eleven other people seated at the table eating lunch together (of course, this is a hypothetical scenario). The leaning toward each other, the incessant smiles,…

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what is reality fiction

Reality Fiction And How It Changes Lives

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If you’re wondering where I got the idea of writing what I call is a self-help novel, it all started with a cartoon series that I created way back. My cartoon book featured stories on embarrassing situations I experienced because of my weight. A publisher told me that I should turn it into a book, and I did. That’s when…

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Finding significance in your work

Making Your Work Meaningful: Finding Significance In Your Work

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In the 16th century, work was considered a means of expressing one’s devotion to God. It encouraged community and it valued family. Work, then, did not take people away from their neighborhood and families; nor was it a means to an end, that is economic gain. Today, work has become secularized, dehumanized, and compartmentalized. Work is often connected to money, status,…

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Turn negative thoughts around

What’s Your Story?

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We all have stories. “My father left us for another woman.” “I never do anything right in the eyes of my mother.” “My husband cheated on me.” “My children don’t appreciate what I do for them.” “My boss is a dictator from hell.” “I am fat.” What is mind boggling is that most of our stories, how we perceive our…

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Mind your own business

Mind Your Own Business!

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Are you feeling overly stressed lately? Have you been feeling down for reasons you cannot pin point? Then maybe you are not minding your own business. What do I mean by that? Let me share something I learned from Byron Katie, who is known for The Work, which she says is “a woman’s direct experience of how suffering is created…

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"Get to know the real you, because if you can’t stand being alone with them, how can you expect someone else to?"

− Becky Siame

"If you want your dreams to come true, wake up. Your dreams won't happen if you don't work for them!"

− Becky Siame

"Trust yourself enough to know that you're capable of handling whatever outcome shows up. You've got this."

− Becky Siame

"The value of your life has nothing to do with the money you earn, but what you share with others."

− Becky Siame

"Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny."

− C. S. Lewis

"The way we chose to see ourselves limits who we can be, step outside the box you are more capable then you imagined and may surprise yourself."

− Becky Siame

"Today is the day to start living the life of your dreams. It all starts with the right choices, because the choices you make define the person you become."

− Becky Siame

"If the world only accepts you when you're thinner, happy and going somewhere, then I'd choose friends and family over the world any day."

− Becky Siame

"You are enough! Right Here, Right Now You have everything you need to live a powerful life of significance. "

− Becky Siame

"One bad chapter is just a small part of a great story! Keep writing your life..."

− Becky Siame

"Your purpose doesn’t have to be something world-shaking. It’s simply the act of being who you were meant to be."

− Becky Siame

"We all make dumb mistakes the important thing is to get back up, dust yourself off and leave those mistakes behind."

− Becky Siame

"Life comes with a 'Stop, Pause, Play buttons. It is within our power to stop the negative, pause to consider our course of action, and play out a new direction or thought pattern. "

− Becky Siame