Finding Your Calling and Living Significantly

Find your passion and live significantly

I’m sure all of you, at one point in your life, asked yourself: “What have I done to make a positive impact in this world?” Many of us would answer, “Well, I’d like to do something but I don’t know where and how to start,” or “I’m not hearing God’s voice directing me towards a calling.” If you think about it, it’s not really a matter of hearing God’s voice because He has already spoken to us: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” The second is this: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” There is no commandment greater than these.” (Mark 12:30-31) What we need to do is to trust Him and use the abilities, resources, and networks that He blessed us with so that we and others can experience Heaven on Earth....
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What’s Your Story?

Turn negative thoughts around

We all have stories. “My father left us for another woman.” “I never do anything right in the eyes of my mother.” “My husband cheated on me.” “My children don’t appreciate what I do for them.” “My boss is a dictator from hell.” “I am fat.” What is mind boggling is that most of our stories, how we perceive our families, friends, and co-workers, and our thoughts about ourselves are mostly negative. We see ourselves as victims, and we resent the people who we think do not accept us or support what we do. Then we carry that heavy luggage around – anger, fears, worries, and regrets – while constantly complaining how stressful and difficult life is. Well, life need not be that way. In my previous blog post, Mind Your Own Business, I mentioned Byron Katie’s The Work. This new way of thinking introduces us to a process of...
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Mind Your Own Business!

Mind your own business

Are you feeling overly stressed lately? Have you been feeling down for reasons you cannot pin point? Then maybe you are not minding your own business. What do I mean by that? Let me share something I learned from Byron Katie, who is known for The Work, which she says is “a woman’s direct experience of how suffering is created and ended.” According to her, there are only three kinds of business: mine, yours, and God’s. When you do not stay in your business, that is when stress, fear, and depression creep into your life. When you find yourself thinking, “My husband should understand me more,” or “My sister should get a job,” you are in their business. When you worry about earthquakes, floods, and dying, you are in God’s business. This is not good because when you always think about what should be best for others and worry about...
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How Judging Others Can Turn Your Life Around

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Did I just say it’s okay to judge other people? Yes. But before you go on a judging spree, hear me out first. I know we have been told never to judge other people. Still, we often always judge others whether we admit it or not. This can cause tension within, especially if we hide it for long periods of time. These judgmental thoughts are most destructive when directed towards people we have forgiven 99 percent, but there’s still this 1 percent that keeps us from totally moving forward. This is why Byron Katie’s The Work encourages us to let our judgments speak out by writing them down. For us to move on, we must face these judgmental thoughts head on so we can turn the situation around. But how do you do this? The Work gives us Four Questions that we must answer when assessing judgmental thoughts: Is it true? Can...
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The Lighter Side of Large

The Lighter Side of Large is a modern day comedy romance, and disguised self-help guide set in Nelson, New Zealand. Isabella “Bella” White, a first generation Samoan New Zealander, is a talented artist with a flair for writing. Problem is, no one knows it. She hides from the world, men and her potential behind 60 kg of excess weight. The weight, however, is not so easy to hide and Bella endures revulsion, ridicule and rudeness for being fat. But when she discovers her ex-husband is marrying her sister in nine months, Bella embarks on a mission: lose the weight, get a career and find the perfect man in time for the wedding. Along the way, Bella discovers losing weight does not make her life perfect. A short cut to skinny through surgery almost ends her life, just as she begins to find it in the arms of Jae, the adventurous...
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Aging Gracefully

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So someone forwards me an email with “Then & Now” photos of famous film and television stars. I think whoever created the email wanted to shock readers in how much these stars have changed from being in their prime to being, well, older. But instead of prompting me to think, “Look how old they look!” I thought, “Look how great they look!” Many were grey; some had lost their figures; others had bigger noses (the nose and ears don’t stop growing); one actually looked better than she did thirty years ago. Why did I think they looked great? Because not one of them looked like they had plastic surgery to turn back the effects of aging. Not one of them appeared fake. Unlike some stars which look like dolls or clowns due to so many cosmetic surgeries, these people looked incredibly normal and, therefore, incredibly beautiful....
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15 Minutes of Fame

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Ain’t technology great? Now we can share our happy, exciting and even most embarrassing moments with the whole world with the tap of a key. Laptops, smart phones, emails, texting, photos, videos, blogs, Facebook, Twitter, Skype: the possibilities are endless. We can even share things with the whole world which we’d rather not share. I know, that statement doesn’t seem to make a whole lot of sense, but I’m talking about those things we do and say which are meant for one person’s eyes only but for whatever reason, more than their eyes get a good look into your mind or at your body and you get your proverbial 15 minutes of fame – or, more appropriately, 15 minutes of shame. Yeah, I think we’ve all “Been there, done that.” That text you wish you hadn’t sent. The photo you wish untaken. The series of emails which tell a story...
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